Handfasted
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Handfasting
is the Wiccan word for the marriage ceremony. This is very personal and can be customized
into any type of ceremony. Unlike the
Christian form, where the man and woman are locked together “till death do us
part” (even if they later grow apart and eventually come to almost hate one
another), the Wiccan ceremony joins man and woman “for so long as love shall
last”. When there is no longer love
between them, they are free to go their separate ways.
These days most couples write
their own Hand-fasting ceremony. I here
give the Seax-Wica rite as an example. You
may like to use it as it is, or just as a basis for your own ideas. Read it
carefully. In addition to being very
beautiful, I think you will find that it makes a great deal of sense.
The Rite
This rite
should be performed during the waxing of the Moon. The Altar may be decked with flowers and
flowers strewn about the Circle. If the
coven normally wears robes, for this rite it is suggested that the Bride and
Groom at least be sky clad (nude); preferably the whole coven.
It is
traditional in the Seax-Wica for the Bride and Groom to exchange rings. These are usually gold or silver bands with
the couple’s (Craft) names inscribed on them in runes. These rings rest on the
altar at the start of the rite. The
Priapic Wand is also on the altar.
The Erecting
the Temple is performed. PRIEST and PRIESTESS kiss.
Convener: “There are those in our midst who seek the bond of
Handfasting.”
Priestess: ‘let them be named and brought forward.”
Convener: “...(Groom’s name)... is the Man and (Bride’s name)...is the
Woman.”
BRIDE and
GROOM move forward to stand facing Priest and Priestess across the altar—Bride
opposite Priest and Groom opposite Priestess.
Priestess(to Groom): “Are you ... (Name)...?”
Groom: “I am.”
Priestess: “What is your desire?”
Groom: “To be made
one with ... (Bride’s name)..., in the eyes of the Gods and the Wicca.”
Priest(to Bride): “Are you ...(Name)...?”
Bride: “I am.”
Priest: “And what
is your desire?”
Bride: “To be made
one with ...(Groom’s name)..., in the eyes of the Gods and the Wicca.”
PRIESTESS
takes up sword and raises it high. PRIEST hands Priapic Wand to Bride and
Groom. They hold it between them, each with both hands.
Priestess: “Lord and Lady, here before you stand two of your folk.
Witness, now, that which they have to declare.”
PRIESTESS
replaces sword on altar, then takes her athame and holds the point of it to
Groom’s chest.
Groom
repeats the following, line by line:
Priestess: “Repeat after me: ‘I, ... (Name)..., do come here of my own
free will, to seek the partners hip of ... (Bride’s name).... I come with all
love, honor and sincerity, wishing only to become one with her whom I love.
Always will I strive for ...(Bride’s name)...’s happiness and welfare. Her life
will I defend before my own. May the athame be plunged into my heart should I
not be sincere in all that I declare. All this I swear in the names of the
gods*. May they give me the strength to keep my vows. So mote it be.”
PRIESTESS
lowers her athame. Priest then raises his athame and, in turn, holds it to the
breast of the Bride. She repeats the oath, line by line, after him:
Priest: “Repeat
after me: ‘I, ...(Name)..., do come here of my own free will, to seek the
partners hip of... (Groom’s name) .... I come with all love, honor and
sincerity, wishing only to become one with him whom I love. Always will I
strive for ...(Groom’s name)...’s happiness and welfare. His life will I defend
before my own. May the athame be plunged into my heart should I not be sincere
in all that I declare. All this I swear in the names of the gods*. May they
give me the strength to keep my vows. So mote it be.”
PRIEST
lowers the athame. PRIESTESS takes up the two rings and sprinkles and censes
both. She hands the Bride’s ring to the Groom and the Groom’s ring to the
Bride. They take them in their right hands, remaining holding the Priapic Wand
with their left hands.
Priest: “As the
grass of the fields and the trees of the woods bend together under the
pressures of the storm, so too must you both bend when the wind blows strong.
But know that as quickly as the storm comes, so equally quickly may it leave.
Yet will you both stand, strong in each other’s strength. As you give love; so
will you receive love. As you give strength; so will you receive strength.
Together you are one; apart you are as nothing.”
Priestess: “Know you that no two people can be exactly alike. No more
can any two people fit together, perfect in every way. There will be times when
it will seem hard to give and to love. But see then your reflection as in a
woodland pool: when the image you see looks sad and angered, then is the time
for you to smile and to love (for it is not fire that puts Out fire). In return
will the image in the pool smile and love. So change your anger for love and
tears for joy, it is no weakness to admit a wrong; more is it a strength and a
sign of learning.”
Priest: “Ever love, help and respect each
other, And then know truly that you are one In the eyes of the Gods And of the
Wicca.”
All: “So Mote
It Be!”
PRIEST takes
Priapic Wand from couple and replaces it on the altar. BRIDE and GROOM each
place ring on the other’s finger and kiss. They then kiss Priest and Priestess
across the altar, then move deosil about the Circle to be congratulated by the
others.
Then shall
follow the ceremony of Cakes and Ale followed by games and merriment.
As was
mentioned at the beginning of this article, in many religions marriage is meant
to be a lifetime partnership. Even
though it may turn out that after a few years a couple find they are really
unsuited to one another, they are stuck for the rest of their lives. This invariably leads to great unhappiness for
husband, wife and any children. Although
Witches most certainly do not encourage casual partnerships, they do recognize
the fact that some marriages just do not work out ideally. When this is the case, and when all attempts
have been made to settle any differences, then they will dissolve the
partnership with the old ceremony of Hand parting.
This, of
course, is never undertaken lightly.
Blessing
I hallow this horn of mead
To Gods and Goddesses
High and Holy
Aesir and Vanir
First known in the North
Frigga and Odin
Thorr and Sif
Freya and Freyr
Balder and Nanna
Disir and Alfar
Bless this Wedding.
Wassail!
I hallow this horn of mead
To Gods and Goddesses
High and Holy
Aesir and Vanir
First known in the North
Frigga and Odin
Thorr and Sif
Freya and Freyr
Balder and Nanna
Disir and Alfar
Bless this Wedding.
Wassail!
Buckland's Complete Book of
Witchcraft by Raymond Buckland
